Comments on: Should

By: Maxine Sherrin

Maxine Sherrin — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 06:41:25 +0000

I *totally* agree Vicki. I can’t bear this word, ever since I read a section in a book (on CBT and depression) called “The Tyranny of the Shoulds”. It really made me realise how much misery that word was capable of creating! Sometimes I worry that maybe I have swung the pendulum too far, as I often have a really strong negative reaction to it when friends use it on me. I know, I know, they do it out of concern and caring - but they *should* find another word!

Nice post!

By: Vicki

Vicki — Wed, 27 Jun 2007 06:15:06 +0000

I agree the “should” comment might come from concern - it usually does. (Or so I’d like to think!)

It’s just that people often react emotionally to the word so I reckon it’s good to be aware.

By: Gavin Jacobi

Gavin Jacobi — Wed, 27 Jun 2007 06:07:05 +0000

It is always a healthy thing to pause and consider that the “should” comment might come from concern and not a need for control.

Alas, not a very common reason in business dealings.